Tuesday, April 7, 2009

... Being a Mom means

...I watch Oprah! I feel like it is sometimes against the rules to admit that you watch TV while being a SAHM (stay at home mom). But I do, not all the time, but some times while I fold laundry or get ready. Yesterday, while folding laundry, I was watching Oprah. (Day time TV sucks by the way) The ENITRE show was on the topic of Mothers. I was impressed and finally realized that I am not the only one that feels like pulling her hair out from time to time. These authors were there(I am buying their books), as well as an audience full of Mothers! Genius I tell ya! 

I am sure that you all are thinking... "You have one kid, what's the big deal!" I am not one to sit around and eat cake pops all day. I have to be busy! I have slowly learned over the last 18 months that, it's ok not to be doing something all the time! It has taken me this long to come to terms with that. I have my sister to vent to, but she gets tired of hearing it all the time. My husband thinks I am crazy a majority of the time! It felt so good to know that I am not the only mother out there that has some of these feelings, and to hear other mothers being brutally  honest! I am far from perfect, but I try hard. I always have Sweet Pea's best interest at heart. I don't sit and play with her all day, there are times when I tell her to go play with her toys. But I try, and that is all I can do.  There are days where I don't take a shower till 3 or 4 PM. I hate doing laundry every Monday. I wish someone would have told me that I would never get to see my husband! Why didn't any tell me that kids poop and poop a lot? 

I wouldn't trade being a mom for any other job! I love the good days because they make to bad days do-able! Being able to be a mom is a great blessing!

So here is your chance... To vent! 
What do you wish someone would have told you before becoming a mother? 
What is one thing that you just can't stand? 
It's ok! Just be honest... it feels good I promise!

P.S. Mom sorry for making you crazy! 


Jessica Cockrell-Finch said...

i watched it too, and it was such a relief that i am not alone. the one thing i wishsomeone would of told me about motherhood is that the man can not do a whole heck of a lot in the beginning to help. especially if you are breastfeeding, i sometimes feel very overwhelmed

Amanda said...

Hey, I never said I get tired of listening to you talk!

Anonymous said...

I watched it too and I was happy to find out that I am normal afterall. I have a four month old (my first baby) and I was wondering what is it with those "stepford wives" type of mothers with their rainbows and lollypops picture perfect lives with their kid(s). Don't get me wrong I love my son however if someone asks me "so how does it feel to be a new mom"...the heck with the BS I'm gonna tell it like it is !!!!

The Wethington's said...

I wish someone would have told me to sleep as much as I could while I was pregnant with my first...and I wish so much I would have taken advantage of the advice "sleep whenever your baby sleeps" with Garrett because when Savannah was born they never slept at the same time and when Savannah would nap I would wistfully think how I could be napping too if she was my only kiddo...not that I don't just love Garrett to pieces, I just really missed sleep at that time...now I just miss it about 6 days a week lol. :) But being a mommy is pretty stinkin fun huh.

mom2cherreys said...

I really hate it when people assume that because I am a SAHM that I have all the time in the world to do whatever I want. I also hate it that people think because I am a SAHM that EVERYTHING should be clean, in order, and done. I need me time too people! My husband makes as much of the mess (if not more) and he needs to help out too! Yes, I know he works, but we are a family and I have a full time job with 2 growing children. I NEED HELP SOMETIMES! Lucky me that my husband is not one of those stereo type people and he loves me and helps as much as he can. It doesn't get easier when they are out of diapers or in school, it is just different problems and time consuming issues. I love my family but sometimes other people stick their nose where it doesn't belong!

Sorry, I guess everyone has something they need to get off their chest huh! Thanks for sharing Megan and everyone else too!

Jessie said...

Hmmm...lets see, I wish someone would have told me that after you have kids eating with two hands and not having to entertain becomes a luxury.

Also, I wish someone would of told me that babies don't always have the perfect baby soft skin when they are born and that cradle cap is NASTY. And that I would stress myself sick about wanting everything to be right for my baby and to be perfect ( I learned with that one real quick that it is IMPOSSIBLE).

But the great thing about it, is that when I start feeling down or like things are getting too hard, I just remember how much I wanted Crew. That I begged Heavenly Father to send him to me, and cried and cried and cried for him. Then I quickly come back to reality (even though it's still hard) and I get on with life.

Amy Beth said...

I hate it when people ask me if all I do is just stay home with Broc! I feel like saying "Excuse me I dont JUST do anything I am doing the most important job there is." It is so annoying to me when people say, "But what else do you do?" Like I have to have some great career outside of the home to be of any value!

Tim and Shay Brusin said...

Ok, So obviously I don't have kids but I just have to say....Thank you Jesse for the last part of your comment. I don't know you but your comment really hit home with me. We have been tying for a year and a half for a baby. But I wanted one for about a year before we even started trying so... that equals a big fat 2 1/2 years for me! Lately I have been so scared that the reason We can't get pregnant is because I can't handle it and Heavenly Father knows it. But thanks to Jesse I will just have to remember these times. And when I do have a baby of my own and am struggling I will have to remember. Thanks for this Blog Megan. I loved it.